Etiquette In Society-Gifts

Etiquette-Gifts

Exchanging gifts is among the thoughtful things people do for each other.

The main thing to remember is that your gift must be sincere and heartfelt before it can mean much to the recipient. As it is often said, "It is not the gift but the thought that counts."

Before offering a gift, try to anticipate the recipient's desires.

Make sure the gift is appropriate, and then decide what gift would be most appreciated. To give the wrong gift causes embarrassment, and you can prevent awkward situations by deciding carefully. Review all the factors, such as time, place, and the person's tastes and interest.

Present your gift in a nicely wrapped package.

A pleasing appearance always makes it seem all the more handsome; the "extra" touches show thought and care.

When you give someone a present you are showing affection,

and there should be no selfish motive behind it. The whole spirit in giving is wasted when you expect to be rewarded.

You may on occasion receive a gift that you do not like.

Remember that it is discourteous to give or throw away a gift. The mark of a courteous person is when he can cover up his distaste to save the feelings of another person. To save your own feelings, try to forget for the moment what the gift was and just consider the thoughtfulness behind it.

Make your feelings and wishes clear to other people--

within reason; thus, disappointments are less likely to occur. If you must, for a good reason, take the gift back for exchange, let the giver know why, so as not to hurt his feelings. A situation of this sort can always be dealt with politely, by explaining why you could not accept it, at the same time showing your sincere appreciation for the thought. In this way you courteously smooth over an uncomfortable circumstance.

Gifts must be acknowledged as soon as possible with a thank-you of some sort.

It is not difficult to be sincere in thanking someone. If the giver is present thank him immediately, and if he is not present send him a note or letter of thanks promptly. Telephone calls are also an acceptable method of expressing gratitude.